Relationships, we have all had them. I read something on the old interweb that got me thinking. 1. I haven't posted on here in a bit, and 2. I have learned a lot about relationships over the last year.
Things have to mesh in order for people to have a successful relationship. Similar interests, similar morals, goals, ambitions, likes, and dislikes are all important aspects. You need to be able to be yourself around your partner. Not the "I'm trying to impress you self" but the true no makeup no mask self. Being able to express your concerns, problems, and insecurities are all important parts of being in a relationship. Now I am no relationship adviser, I have surely had my share of failed ones. These are just some things I have learned in my life.
You have to be able to feel completely comfortable around your partner. You should be able to laugh, cry, giggle, heck even fart around ur partner (unless you are a girl, girls don't fart!!). Complete comfort is what I am talking about. Not always worrying if your hair is messed up or if there is something stuck in your teeth. They should love you for who you are and you them even with all of our imperfections.
Relationships are like a partnership, we work together to pursue a happy medium in this crazy world. Feelings and emotions should be reciprocated, if one is trying harder than the other it puts a strain on things. Never lose the romance and spontaneity, don't be scared to step out of your comfort zone. I always tell my sponsees this "If you want to expand your comfort zone, you need to step out of it!"
I have been dating this girl for about 3 months and I understand that we are still in the honeymoon phase of things. She has made me realize why all of my other relationships have not worked. They were not a good fit for me or for them. Not saying that they were bad people, just the wrong ones for me.
Life is not all unicorns and rainbows, there are no perfect relationships like we see on the movies. Relationships take work, and just like everything else in life, if you want to be successful you have to put the time in. Getting to know someone, their likes and dislikes, what makes them laugh, what makes them upset, all important. Understanding that your friends and family members opinions of your significant other are valuable assets. They have known you a lot longer than your partner.
I wanted to just write a little bit about what I have learned in this last year. Just because a relationship doesn't work out doesn't mean you failed, it means it wasn't a good fit. I am in a very good place and my girlfriend has shown me after 35 years that it is OK to by myself, for better and for worse! Thank you for that my dear! I hope all are well and excited for the summer, I know I am!
